The ones going through the real deal are the ones in relationships with manipulators, subtle controllers, mental distorters and mind tormenters. It is the most toxic of all relationships. The victims die a slow, painful, natural death.
One of the biggest mistake you can make is to be in love with a manipulator. They thrive on controlling other people's mind and without these, they cannot function. They will find your weakness, use them against you at the slightest opportunity, make you beg, beg and constantly apologize for your seemingly wrong doings, they convince you to give up something that matters greatly to you in order to serve their self-centred interests, they make you think you are the sole cause of whatever issues arise in the relationship, they pretend to accept your apologies on the pretext that they love you, they will continue this cycle over and over again until you decide to put an end to their manipulation.
And even while you are going through this painful saga, you are afraid to let go. You feel your happiness is dependent on them. You have collected some nice memories with them and stored them somewhere in your brain. You feel you are nothing without them. This is because they have held you hostages to your fears and insecurities. Once in a while, you flash back and think that is exactly what joy feels like...
NO!
You are in bondage!!
You need to let loose!!!
You need to let go!!!
You need to know that....
●You have a right to be treated with respect
●You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants
●You have the right to set your own priorities
●You have the right to say 'no' without feeling guilty
●You have the right to get opinions different from others
●You have the right to take care of and protect yourself from being threatened physically, emotionally and mentally
●You have the right to create your own happy and healthy life
Do not let anyone manipulate your mind for the attainment of their selfish desires.
Keep your distance, avoid personalization and self blame, put the focus on them by asking them probing questions, learn to say NO diplomatically and firmly, confront them safely and wisely.
When all these fails....
Carry your Ghana-must-go and flee.
Do not let anything or anyone erode your self esteem.
Do not let them give you names or adjectives that doesn't belong to you.
Remember you are valuable than value itself.
Remember there is someone better out there.
Just my little token this morning.
Have a blessed day.
Much love
NO!
You are in bondage!!
You need to let loose!!!
You need to let go!!!
You need to know that....
●You have a right to be treated with respect
●You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants
●You have the right to set your own priorities
●You have the right to say 'no' without feeling guilty
●You have the right to get opinions different from others
●You have the right to take care of and protect yourself from being threatened physically, emotionally and mentally
●You have the right to create your own happy and healthy life
Do not let anyone manipulate your mind for the attainment of their selfish desires.
Keep your distance, avoid personalization and self blame, put the focus on them by asking them probing questions, learn to say NO diplomatically and firmly, confront them safely and wisely.
When all these fails....
Carry your Ghana-must-go and flee.
Do not let anything or anyone erode your self esteem.
Do not let them give you names or adjectives that doesn't belong to you.
Remember you are valuable than value itself.
Remember there is someone better out there.
Just my little token this morning.
Have a blessed day.
Much love
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