I don't do welcome ceremony on my wall, so you don't have to inform me that this is your first time of commenting on my posts - Nkechi Bianze

Nkechi is trending again. So, let's clear the air.


1. I'm proud, and I will remain proud for as long as I live. Don't worry about me falling, I'm sure you have your own problems to worry about.


2. Often times, I could be a bit forceful and somewhat aggressive with driving my points. It's my DEFAULT Facebook writing style. I can actually change it, but I won't because I like me like that.


3. I don't do welcome ceremony on my wall, so you don't have to inform me that this is your first time of commenting on my posts.


4. I'm on Facebook to speak my mind. The ONLY way you can bring me to my kneels is if you come with superior arguments. Subs won't cut it, cyber attacks won't cut it, insults won't cut it, superior argument is the only way you can get me to bow.
Quite frankly, from my observations, only a handful of Nigerians are capable of that.


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I AM A FEMINIST and I will remain a feminist FOREVER. For as long as I breath.


You can't sub or shade feminism out of me. That's a tall and impossible dream that can only manifest in your hallucinations.


Up until this time last year, I used to be bothered about subs, shades and cyber attacks. But I stopped after I figured out that I could actually make something out of it.


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Whenever a friend gets attacked on Facebook or anywhere, I have this compulsive urge to carry it on my head, because by default, I carry my friends' fights on my head. Age and maturity taught me to pick those battles.


So, I understand and sincerely appreciate when my friends can't resist going into posts where I've been subbed to defend me.


Now, dear friends, let's talk.


If you like or love me, the BEST thing you would do for me when you see an attack against me is to IGNORE, and I will tell you why.


MOST (and I mean 4 out of 5) sub/shade/cyber attack posts are ATTENTION SEEKING posts.


A person makes a sub/shade/cyber attack post to vent anger, seek attention and drive traffic to his or her wall. You don't like the post, so you go in there to insult them, argue with them and defend me. Then go to your wall to sub them or call them out.


Do you know what you are doing?
You are giving them what they desire... the attention, the relevance, the traffic.


These lunatics crave attention. They want to be talked about. To them, it doesn't matter whether it is in the positive or negative.


A lot of people wonder why I seldom respond to subs. It is for this same reason. I don't respond to most (4 out of 5) of posts against me because I know they crave attention, and I get back at them by starving them of such attention which they crave.


The worst thing you can do to them is NOT insult them or call them out, the worst you can do to them is IGNORE THEM. By so doing, you are not helping them achieve their aim.


I appreciate my friends who try to defend me, but we can all do better. Ignoring them like they don't exist is the best defense you will put up for me.


And I block these people for a reason, I will appreciate if no one comes inbox to inform me that I've been subbed or attacked. I really don't read most sub or shade posts against me.


If you must, make a playful post, tag me to it and we can all mess around like we've got no problems in life.


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And about the looks. I don't know if it's me or them, but I still love what I see when I look in the mirror.


I know all these "Leave Nkechi alone. She is beautiful and intelligent" posts are being made with good intentions, and that's why it's very difficult for me to say this..... I actually find them more embarrassing than the sub posts. I could do without them in the future, but it feels good to know there are people who love me enough to fight for me.