That day have since for many reasons been ensconced in my heart. Most was her ability to wow me without make-up. That left an indelible mark in me. You see, men like it when their girlfriend look beautiful. Irrespective of the cosmetic surplus. However, they have to get used to the idea of seeing their girlfriend without make up before marriage.
Every night she’ll wash the make-up off her face, won’t she? So how are you going to cope? It’s only in Nollywood that women wake up perfectly made-up. Reality is less pleasant. The point I’m trying to make is that we seem to be fixated on other consummations of women and relegate this very important aspect of them to the background. As if it doesn't matter at all. Looks does, and so does beauty.
I love my girlfriend irrespective of her looks, but when she makes up, she deserves 21 gunshots. Do not get me wrong, I am not trying to say relationship should peregrinate round physical appearance. However, we cannot deny its puissance. Those who relegate sex and beauty and say they count for nothing, and all that matters in the end is character have not heard the sobriquet "Wicked daughter in-law".
There is nothing wrong with appearing your best in make up. That’s wise and it makes sense. It’s important for every man to be able to boast about your looks. Men like people to know they married a pretty woman. Of course what’s pretty can be relative. But young men like to boast in muted expression about the physical attributes of their girlfriends. Men are not God. We look at outward appearance. It counts for something too. Only God takes a critical examination of the heart. And so there’s wisdom in looking nice, especially if he’s going to present you to third parties. However, the real relationship has to be built on lack of make-up. Or else you’ll have a man who only appreciates you when you’re all dressed up. It’s why some young men are ambivalent about their relationships, why they seem to blow hot and cold.
Surely there’s more to you than your face. He’s got to love the you. Truth is, if your facial aesthetics are pristine but your values are warped he’s going to have challenges. On your part of course there has to be a balance. Character and looks have to be combined. And it’s not just because of him. It’s because we must strive for balance in life. Some people take things to the extreme philosophically trying to prove a point looks don’t matter. Well, looks matters to most men. And even those who say au naturel just have bohemian taste. Looks matter. But all the looks in the world will not a solid relationship make. Kind consideration matters. Selflessness matters. Care matters. Attention matters. Control and restraint matter. You’ll not always be at your best looks-wise, however you try. Life’s ablutions do not always allow. There are times you’ll have rollers on, there are times you’ll have hair net on. He has to come to a philosophical appreciation of you and develop his ideology from that. And the knowing that he loves you for you is also critical. It’s almost akin to the sex thing.
The point which I keep reiterating is that marriage is many times messy, especially when kids come. And if he can’t accept your relationship outside of pristine dimensions it won’t endure. This may lead him to start chasing silly girls outside. Of course he’ll only see those girls when their faces are well arranged. And so he’s deluded. If he marries any of those girls the messiness of marriage will still creep in. He’s chasing his tail. Build a solid relationship with one another. Make-up and all that is good. But the real acceptance has to be sans make-up. Of course some women carry things to the extreme and now don’t care. They’re reckless with their looks and that’s dangerous in marriage. There’s always the proverbial secretary in the office remember! But he has to modulate his expectations. He’s got to get used to the idea of you without make-up.
There is nothing wrong with appearing your best in make up. That’s wise and it makes sense. It’s important for every man to be able to boast about your looks. Men like people to know they married a pretty woman. Of course what’s pretty can be relative. But young men like to boast in muted expression about the physical attributes of their girlfriends. Men are not God. We look at outward appearance. It counts for something too. Only God takes a critical examination of the heart. And so there’s wisdom in looking nice, especially if he’s going to present you to third parties. However, the real relationship has to be built on lack of make-up. Or else you’ll have a man who only appreciates you when you’re all dressed up. It’s why some young men are ambivalent about their relationships, why they seem to blow hot and cold.
Surely there’s more to you than your face. He’s got to love the you. Truth is, if your facial aesthetics are pristine but your values are warped he’s going to have challenges. On your part of course there has to be a balance. Character and looks have to be combined. And it’s not just because of him. It’s because we must strive for balance in life. Some people take things to the extreme philosophically trying to prove a point looks don’t matter. Well, looks matters to most men. And even those who say au naturel just have bohemian taste. Looks matter. But all the looks in the world will not a solid relationship make. Kind consideration matters. Selflessness matters. Care matters. Attention matters. Control and restraint matter. You’ll not always be at your best looks-wise, however you try. Life’s ablutions do not always allow. There are times you’ll have rollers on, there are times you’ll have hair net on. He has to come to a philosophical appreciation of you and develop his ideology from that. And the knowing that he loves you for you is also critical. It’s almost akin to the sex thing.
The point which I keep reiterating is that marriage is many times messy, especially when kids come. And if he can’t accept your relationship outside of pristine dimensions it won’t endure. This may lead him to start chasing silly girls outside. Of course he’ll only see those girls when their faces are well arranged. And so he’s deluded. If he marries any of those girls the messiness of marriage will still creep in. He’s chasing his tail. Build a solid relationship with one another. Make-up and all that is good. But the real acceptance has to be sans make-up. Of course some women carry things to the extreme and now don’t care. They’re reckless with their looks and that’s dangerous in marriage. There’s always the proverbial secretary in the office remember! But he has to modulate his expectations. He’s got to get used to the idea of you without make-up.
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