Ownership in marriage. Does he/she own you? I don't think so!

where are the women and men? this concerns us all!
 I had a discussion with a friend of mine last night and he made some points to me which i have heard or seen play out before.
Some women, just like some men, the moment you marry a man, you have a sense of ownership, you feel you now own him and he is all yours. I'm sorry I have to burst this bubble, nobody owns anybody. No man owns any woman neither does a woman own a man, because that's how we will be hearing bible quotation of 'A man shall leave his mother and father and shall cleave to his wife'.
this bible passage most of you quote is out of bile and out of you wanting him to cut off his family for you, truth is that it will never work.
If he is pretending to cut his family off and just focus on you, do not be too happy , because he might be waiting for you in the future to cause a rancour and only took your excesses maybe for the sake of his children.

women, if you do not like his family and just only like your husband, do not bother marrying that man because the family will constantly be in the way. They may sense you don't like them and obviously do not want to lose their son and brother to you, so there will definitely be some form of resistance, and it doesn't mean they are a bad family. think about it, would you like discord among your children because of their spouses? I am not saying a woman should not be a priority to her husband, in fact she should be number one and at the same time realise that he is a son, brother and cousin to some people and he has to fulfill his obligations as such, not necessarily monetary, but socially and sometimes monetary so far he doesn't clash with the needs of the family.
I heard some women beat their mothers - in-law, i mean, how on earth did you get there? there could be a little of verbal missiles and of course have it in mind that it is you that will end up apologising, so maybe you should not bother, and save the insult for her son, your husband, he can bear the brunt of what his mother might have said to you, but beating your mother in law is way out of line and you expect that man to love you again simply because you have kids for him? it will never be the same again, he will never forgive you, he might end up walking out on you in the later years of your marriage.
Finally, if you think his family aren't people you can spend the holiday with simply because you are coming from a more sophisticated family than his, do not bother marrying him because it will always be an issue he will raise up that you are avoiding his family and not making them spend time with his and they go to your parents' all the time because your parents have all the sophistication in handling grandchildren, this obviously means that you are conscious of the different social strata you belonged to, and it will always be an issue.
All these here also applies to men and not just women,.
These are some of the things that lead to DV ( Domestic Violence) and I am not making any excuses for DV, I stand against it, but we must address things that cause some of these things and that is not to say SOME MEN ARE JUST MAD!