"Some Women need to be slapped not just by their husbands" says relationship coach Tusky

SOME LADIES DO NEED A SLAP, not just from their husbands. 

This morning I'll like to address the issue of sharp mouthed wives and ladies, it's gonna be tough so bear with me. 

There are many good husbands out there who daily face the temptation of landing a well aimed, well deserved and solid slap on their wives faces, thank God for those of them who are responsible and disciplined enough to restrain themselves and please, I encourage you to keep restraining yourselves. Now I'm in no way encouraging, endorsing or advocating for domestic violence but at the same time, many women and wives these days should just watch their mouths and shut up. 

We keep telling men, don't touch your wife, don't even abuse her, blah blah blah, good, but who is telling rude, saucy, sarcastic, aggravating, provocative and ill brought up wives to stop insulting and destroying their husband's ego, morale and self esteem. I don't believe in double standards, the same way there is absolutely no excuse for a man to beat his wife, so also, there is absolutely no excuse for a woman to insult and malign her husband. 

The painful thing is that because these days there is a strong outcry against D. V which is right, I am one of the antagonists of it. Nevertheless, I'm beginning to suspect that quite a number of women are now capitalising on this to ride roughshod over their husbands and partners with the idea that there is nothing he can do, creating an impotent rage in the poor man. Yes, in as much as self control and discipline are one of the major attributes of a Man, nevertheless it's not right to push anyone too much and stretch them beyond their elasticity point.

For example, I once told you all of a woman who told her hubby he is brainless because he actually had two brains but one is lost and the other had gone to look for the lost one!!!, seriously!!! And this is the least of the insults that some ladies pass on their men, disrespecting them, arguing over everything, nagging their lives out, plying them with sarcasm, innuendos, refusing to do just about anything they say and just being plain, downright nasty. I know because husbands talk to me too and some of these guys are just broken and fed up! So hear me sister, MECHI ONU!!! (SHUT UP!!!).
D. V (Domestic violence) is wrong but so also is DMD (DOMESTIC MOUTH DIARRHEA). You as a woman cannot continue to Leave the Anus and be shitting with the mouth and expect your husband to be kissing that mouth, that's arrant nonsense and it won't work, no one including you likes to eat shit. And please, don't tell me you talk like that because the man asked for it etc, you see, the moment you give an excuse for DMD and expect it to be accepted, you have invariably established an acceptable excuse for DV too, (50-50, no cheating, 2 ge 4).

One of the most important thing to a man is honour and respect. I'm not saying that men are not often frustrating, but we women too should please watch our mouths and stop excusing gross misbehaviour away by saying its natural for a woman to have sharp mouth. Like I normally joke, all this new fangled 21st century Kardashian system of feminine treatment of husbands won't work, ko le werk ooo, Ehen. 

So Sis, sorry if I'm hard on us this morning, you all know I'm a woman too so I trip for my sisters but I'm a coach too, I take no sides, I stand only for the Lord. It's time we as women and wives stop oppressing our men and act accordingly. There is a child and a king in your man, often it's the way you address him that determines which one that will come out, Whatever you call eventually comes. When you keep calling him Oloriburuku, he will keep "burukuin" your head, simple. Even the Bible says that it is better to live on the roof of the house than with an obnoxious woman. Now I'm not saying all women are guilty of DMD, but its an issue under relationship and marriage which should also be addressed. So sisters, let's keep working on our tongues, sanitising our mouths and seasoning our methods of speaking to our husbands and men. 

This morning, I say NO TO BOTH DV AND DMD!!!.

Publishers note : In as much as I am against verbal abuse from spouses, this relationship coach's views are distant from mine.