That Damola-thing, sewage of a man. - Joy Isi Bewaji

The unenlightened man with some form of education is as dangerous as a terrorist.


Men who believe sex or the acknowledgement of sexual pleasure by women makes them less of humans/ worthy of humiliation, are many.


Lie, if you wish. But if you have tried to shame an Ex with sex, then you fit the bill.


I have had one Damola-thing who threatened to share our chats... because I kicked him out of my space.




He was nothing to me. Not a past. Not a present. Nothing.


Painment.


He sought revenge. And since sex didn't happen. Not even a kiss, he thought a two-year old chat would do the trick.


He searched under the earth, tortured himself to think up a shaming device. When nothing sufficed, he turned to chats. Anything to humiliate his generation. Definitely not me.


And you wonder: what is this obsession men have with humiliating women sexually?


Even when sex dosen't happen, they scrape the bottom of their misery to find something - anything.


E.g: Mere chats.


Now the question is: Why would he think chats would humiliate me but not him?


Why would he threaten me with chats that we both had and expect that I should be the one humiliated...and he, applauded.


I can never wrap my head around these things. Certainly not at my age should anyone think their attempts at shaming me can ever be more important than the things I have done or can achieve.


Men like Damola are far gone and deep in the doldrums. There's no hope for these ones.


But we can save the boys and younger men, hopefully.


These ones who brag about raping girls in school and in their neighbourhood.


This Sheyi Sheyor.


I threw two of his kind in jail. Last year. One Ikotun case.


They raped a girl. Made a video. And the next day, buying cigarettes at a mallam's shop. Just around the corner of their deed.


The audacity.


Just like this Sheyor matter. To brag about rape and get people "liking" the post.


He will grow up believing that when he cannot sleep with a woman, he can at least shame her with chat history.


Like that Damola-thing. Sewage of a man.


I am amazed how low we keep sinking as human beings. Animals treat their kind better.