You are not alone, your pain is universal - Chikwendu Reuben

Break ups....

To me, the hardest part of going through a break up is the early mornings when you wake up.

As you open your eyes to the sunset, just as you were about to admire the beautiful day ahead, that's when reality come knocking.

You get this pain in your belly that would slowly walk it way towards your heart. It brings a feeling of tightness in the chest, it feels like someone is slowly crushing you heart.

While trying so hard to stop the tears from running free. You look up to the ceiling telling yourself "No you are not allowed to cry" repeatedly.

In most cases, your emotions always betray you.

As I lean on my pillow crying it often feels like someone is stepping on my air supply tube and I can't breath. So I open my mouth and gasp for air.

That feeling is only worst the first few days or weeks, but with each passing day the pain decreases. Until oneday you wake up and the pain is completely gone.

And finally you can breath again.

During break up mourning period, it's okay to cry it out alone or with a close friend. It's okay to wish them death and fate worst than death. It's okay to stalk the person (but I strongly advised against it).
But the good thing is that, that feeling is temporary.

If you are going through break up, I'm here for you if you want to talk about it.

If you have kola nut I will help you consult Amadioha to discuss his or her matter .

Finally, I want you to know that, how you feel right now is temporary.
That feeling does go away eventually.
And you can finally breath again.

You are not alone 

Your pain is universal

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A few years ago I came up with this theory that break ups are like experiencing withdrawal symptoms.

Withdrawal symptoms is what addicts experience when they are trying to quit their habit.

So in this case, relationships is like being a substance addict. Therefore, the pain you feel when the relationship end is similar to withdrawal symptoms.

I see my exes as different drugs I was once addicted to.

When people jump into another relationship immediately after break up, I view it as replacing one addiction with another. For instance, it's like heroine addict replacing the addiction with alcohol.

However, some people eventual grow out of drug addiction. In a relationship, some people do grow out of loving their partner. And when that happens, the level of discomfort experience after break up is very mild.