Whilst the man is most times the one who prioritises sex in marriage, many women have sexual relationship at the lowest ebb and least priorities in their minds or vice versa. This lopsided sexual preference raises the compatibility conundrum that is often left as the untested waters and uncharted course in premarital expedition.
Many reasons are responsible for the low libidinal appetite in married men and women. They include the task of raising children, work-related stress, emotional stress, financial pressure, post-partum depression, pre-menopausal tiredness, exhaustion, emotional weariness, marital fisticuffs, domestic violence, home management stress and monotony.
Generally, the spouse who bears the most burden in marriage has the least appetite for sexual gyration as competing pressure has the cognate capacity of reducing sex to the rear of relevant priorities in marriage. The stressed woman is hardly ever in the mood and the man who wants some often must learn the basic art of helping out and easing the stress of the tired wife. This is the most effective foreplay in bedroom politicking.
One evil thing about a sexless marriage is that it's a dangerous unstoppable chain. If you leave it for a week, it leaves you for a month. The more you stay away from it, the more you teach your spouse how well to live without it and do without you. Strangely, either party gets a suitable alternative elsewhere and the crack deepens.
Wives must realise that their view of sex is not the same as their husbands'. Whilst a married woman as an emotional being has sex out of genuine affection for her husband and as such might be emotionally incapable of having constant affectionate sex with a man who annoys her, abuses her, makes her feel hurt, injured, disappointed, stressed, oversaturated, exhausted, unsupported, uncatered for, abandoned, weary, violated and disinterested, her husband is not wired the same way as a logical being, as he can simply have sex with his enemy when he is pressed, if not for anything but to achieve a release. The pressed man doesn't complain about the dirty toilet. This is why many men cheat with scruffy women beneath their status.
A sexually starved man is incapable of differentiating between a legitimate or illicit coitus, he just wants to do. This is why a husband who is angry with you would still be able to get it up and have angry sex with you. His sexual craving is borne out of pure desire and need to feel normal. It's a mental condition, not an emotional direction. He loses his cognitive capacity to rationalise his actions and loses both discipline and self control in his blood-rush. This is why dignified, but konjified men lay with maids and call girls. He has challenges hearing, rationalizing or understanding anything of worth when he is starved. Until he is done, he isn't clear-headed. It's like the lucid interval for intermittent psychosis.
Whilst the wife wants to settle all issues in order to have sex and might not be able to have sex until the domestic and marital issues are resolved, the husband is more likely to forget about the issues once he gets sex. Once he is on heat- he remembers neither the wife nor the issues. This is where an interesting balance is required to stabilise the home. Make deliberate efforts to stabilise your homes. It is foolish to punish your spouse with sexual deprivation. Let us not forget our differences, let us understand them. May God continually bless your marriages.
-Word Bank.
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