Failure of fatherhood has left many unhappy and traumatized Aluzu Ebikebuna Augustine

Fatherhood done wrongly or not at all can lead to issues for children. Failure of fatherhood has left many unhappy and traumatized. Some of us are so angry and we don’t know why. We don’t realize it’s our history from failure of fatherhood traumatizing us. Some of us are fighting dead fathers. How do you fight a dead man? Some of the problems in marriage are problems emanating from experiences relating to failure of fatherhood. We wrongly take out our anger and hurt for our fathers on our spouses, lashing out at them, treating them as surrogates. Some are afraid to show emotions. They camouflage their issue with society’s false definition of manhood.

Some can’t say, “I love you” to their own family. They grew up under draconian, tyrannical fathers who displayed no love. Some had irresponsible fathers, drunkards who drank away the school fees and family fortune. That’s failure of fatherhood. Some had abusive fathers who turned the home into theatres of violence. That’s failure of fatherhood. Some had fathers or father figures who violated their pubic innocence, sexually assaulted them. That’s failure of fatherhood. And some are filled with shame and rage at the father who raped, and the mother who knew but turned a blind eye.

May we be better Fathers. May we leave inheritance for our children!

Happy father's day