Guess what?! She is married today to a rich man, and she has never worked a day in her life - Nkechi Bianze

Dear men,

It is ok for you to want a full-time housewife. You've got the right to have a choice of the type of wife you want. What is NOT ok is taking your time out to woo, ask out, propose and marry a woman who loves her career, who has spent years studying in the university or acquiring training from anywhere, built a career and is clearly in love with her career, and then ask her to give it up and sit at home for you.... for any reason at all.

There are women whose life ambitions are to be full time housewives.

I've seen some first class graduate Nigerian women who want to be full time housewives. My sister told me that one of her school mates who graduated with a first class in Law told them right from her first year at Uni that she was just studying in order not to be an illiterate, that she was never going to work, so she was going to end up as a housewife. That was always her future ambition.

Guess what?!

She is married today to a rich man, and she has never worked a day in her life.

What am I trying to say to these men?That there are women of all classes, both highly educated to stark illiterates who genuinely want to be full-time housewives. If you want a full-time housewife, pick from one of them.

Stop dashing dreams.

Stop marrying career loving women and asking them to drop all their dreams for you to live yours.

As for me, a man asking me to stop working is as good as handing me a divorce paper. That for me is a good ground for divorce. Because I'm a career loving woman who would die sad and unfulfilled if I don't pursue my career.

And please save us the tale of putting career before family and all them stuff. Having a career is NOT mutually exclusive to having a good and happy family and marriage.

Most of the most career successful women in the world have happy and organized families. So, such logic doesn't hold water.

Men should learn to discuss these things with their girlfriends or potential wives, and allow these women make an informed decision of what they are in for. Stop thinking that a marriage certificate gives you a remote control to their lives.

But then, I also blame women who accept to give up their jobs, dreams and ambitions at the dictates of their husbands. A woman who wants a full-time husband would discuss that before marriage because she knows she can't just wake up one day and ask him to stop working.

Maybe if some of these men realize that they can't just stop a woman from working, they will start discussing it and reaching agreements before marriage.

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