When the issue of DNA was trending, I forgot to ask all abroad husbands to shut up when real husbands are talking - Nkechi Bianze

There was this woman who used to live in our childhood neighborhood. I grew up thinking she was a widow, because she had five children, and we never knew the husband.

It was many years after I knew her, and only after I became a teenager that I got to realize that she wasnt a widow.

Her husband married her a few years before I was born and went back to the US. He only came once in a while to get her pregnant and go back again.

She had five children, and the 4th is about same age as me.

The man married her with the promise that he was going to come back for her as soon as he finishes his studies and settles, but more than ten years and five children after, he never came back to move his family to the US.

Reliable sources had it that he has another family in the US. Till this very day, this woman who is now almost 60 still lives in Nigeria. The man only sent money for the childrens school fees and provisions, but his wife lived all her married life like a widow.

Ive got a cousin who is currently in Nigeria. She has been married for almost seven years, and she has two children. Mr. Husband is still in the abroad processing papers.

Still in Agbor, I know about a woman who almost committed suicide when she realized that her abroad husband of 3 years is married in the states.

You know, Ive lived in two western countries for about a decade now, and I can say with all the confidence that more than 70% of Nigerian men who leave their wives in Nigeria for more than a year while abroad are NOT faithful.

The ones that are faithful are always VERY DESPERATE to do all thats necessary to bring their women to come and live with them. Because trust me, they dont want to stay ten years without sex and children.

This is psychological.

A man marries a woman, gets her pregnant, and leaves her in Nigeria. If he isnt getting a "wifely" treatment, he would be very desperate to bring his wife to join him.

When the issue of DNA was trending, I forgot to ask all abroad husbands to shut up when real husbands are talking.

What the hell do you expect when you marry a woman and dump her in Nigeria for years, while you live with or marry another woman who has sex with you and has children with you?

What do you people take women for? Child producing hens whose only essence in life is to open her legs for you and pop out children?

These women got married FIRST because they need companions. They need someone to be there. They need someone to argue with, they need that warmth of their men as many nights as possible. What were you expecting when you dumped them in Nigeria for years?

And to you ladies who lose your brains as soon as you hear abroad and accept such useless arrangements. Why do you cheat? I mean most of you opened your eyes and walked into hell, so why do you get fed up of the heat?

For how long are some of you women going to continue allowing yourselves to be used as abandoned mother hens, or child rearing creatures?

Why cant you learn from other peoples mistakes.

Stop marrying abroad men without the necessary precautions. Protect yourself in such a way that you wont be the fool.

Most of these men marry you, get you pregnant, abandon you and go enjoy good sex with other women.

The most stupid ones are even the ones who were married traditionally only.

If you are unlucky and the mans family is that type from hell, and you are the people pleasing type, they will turn you to their family slave all in the name of the peanut they paid as bride price on your head.

Look o, before you people will say Im trying to tell you who to marry as if is you and I that will suffer the conji and cold nights. You can marry an abroad husband if you like. This post is just to open your eyes to the evil days ahead, if you dont do the right things.

Surely, therere safe ways to cover your tracks, take precautions and reduce risks to the minimum.

So, in my next post, I will highlight the necessary steps and precautions to take before you marry an abroad husband. These steps will help reduce the risks.

Watch out for my next post, part two of this.

source: www.nkechibianze.com