If I go to my boyfriend/fiance/husband's family home for the FIRST TIME and I get served food, I expect them to clear the dishes after me Nkechi Bianze

If my boyfriend/fiancé/husband comes to MY FAMILY HOME FOR THE FIRST TIME and gets a meal, I will NOT let him clear the dishes after himself, except he insists.
I've got a habit of serving my guests, most especially first time guests.
Either the house help or myself would do it.


But then, if by chance there is a delay for any reason at all, I will NOT be impressed if he calls me to do it.


If I go to my boyfriend/fiance/husband's family home for the FIRST TIME and I get served food, I expect them to clear the dishes after me.


However, if they don't, I will stand up and do it. I will definitely NOT sit there and call someone.


Emphasis on "EXPECT", because I really like to do things myself. The only times I would rather be served by someone is when I'm in a party, restaurant or any other formal occasion. Then I can be comfortable to go with the flow.


Just like I expect to get a special treatment whenever I visit ANYONE (inlaws inclusive) for the first time, and I don't expect and will NOT allow any husband or inlaw turn me into a maid, so also I think a man who visits his inlaws for the first time should get a special treatment. They should NOT expect him to clear his plates.


Neither I nor my parents will let my man who is visiting for the first time clear his dishes. No, not because he is my man, but because he is a FIRST TIME guest.


But then, the man shouldn't have the temerity to call on anyone if his hosts fail to do what courtesy demands. He should have just done it himself. That's what I would have done.


Calling on someone reeks of stinking level of entitlement.


As a HUMAN, people owe you a certain level of courtesy, regards and respect.


BUT..... listen!


You are NOT entitled to these.